Answering the question of whether someone is your Twin Flame (and not a Karmic Soulmate or Twin Self) is as simple as tuning in, and pulling a few cards. Whether you read tarot or not, you can answer this question for yourself. Here's how:
1. Center yourself in meditation, lifting your vibration until you feel a sense of peace and disconnect from outcomes.
2. Hold the deck and ask that it be cleared and connected to your heart. Cut the deck, blow on it or whatever helps you clear it, and fan out the cards in front of you face down.
3. Ask silently or out loud if ___________ is your Twin Flame.
4. Pick as many cards as you are drawn to, or together in a grouping.
If you draw:
-The Empress, Sun, World, one of the Aces, or 9 or 10 of Cups your answer is "yes".
-The Death, Devil, Tower, the 3, 5 or 7 of Swords, or the 5 of Cups is a "no".
- There are other cards that read as "maybe" or "unknown", but these shouldn't apply here. You should get a "yes" or "no" card. If you do not, then you may need to re-phrase the question, as this person may be something other than a Twin Flame.
- If a "yes" and a "no" card come up, there may be interfering energies around you, or this can mean a "maybe".
- If you feel your fears, energy or outside energy is interfering with your reading, you can have a psychic read this for you.
At this poignant time in history, there are three types of challenges that Twin Flames are experiencing, as they rejoin to make the transition to a new Earth. Twin Selves and Soulmates, also play a role in the lives of Twin Flames, and learning to identify the difference in these is crucial for those striving for 5D.
The awakening is already occurring, and this involves the opportunity to help raise the love vibration of Earth. I feel this is why many Twin Flames are meeting up now, as they are a group of spirits that deliberately came to join with their other half, aid in the transformation process by learning to have 5D relationships, and thereby have the opportunity to go home. (There are many here who are not from this group, but are helping in other ways.) Earth has become a meeting grounds, so to speak, where beings from many universes have gathered to watch this phenomena, or assist. Earth is a special place. It is the only place in this universe that is a direct portal to Source, and if you have incarnated here now, you may be experiencing your last lifetime and wanting to return home (pieces of yourself may reside in other universes, but everyone's ultimate spiritual goal and purpose is returning to Source at some point). The trick is not to get stuck here in the process.
TWIN FLAME CHALLENGES:
1. TFs in two separate bodies: (Creating). The creating challenge contains all the realizations, pains, ecstasies, separations and all the dynamics that are already going on, and discussed in many many posts and articles about TFs, (such as one twin being married, or running, or staying together and enjoying the relationship etc.). There are many different scenarios depending on what your spiritual purpose is together in this particular lifetime. Some twins are in a negative cycle together, creating more karma by playing out 3D relationship dramas. Others are surrendering their egos, and opening to love, creating an awareness to prepare to merge with their Twin, or find freedom through a Twin Self (see below).
2. Merging (literally) the TF spirits: (Merging). You are able to merge with your TF. The merging happens on all levels. One Twin usually passes away, with the remaining Twin unaware that they have actually merged, and are no longer separate. You may feel you have lost your Twin and are left behind. The realization of the merging may not occur until another lifetime, where you may need to incarnate as both in one body. Twin Flames' Spirits can merge, like the flames in a fire, when the higher purpose is accepted.
3. Incarnating with both Twins in one body: (Realization). You incarnate as both Twins in the same body. (Those who feel that their Twin Flame is on the other side and not incarnated, may actually be experiencing this challenge. Some may still be searching for their Twin, also unaware they are both.) This is usually your last lifetime here, with a strong desire to return to Source. See the process below under "Twin Self" for more information about the "realization".
TWIN SELF: "Twin Self" is interchangeable with the term "Twin Soul". A Twin Self is, however, different than a Twin Flame. These are individuals, who embody and reflect the final erasing of karma. A Twin Self is capable of understanding unconditional divine love, or will bring it out in you to some degree. There is more than one Twin Self, so it is not the same individual lifetime to lifetime, but rather whomever is needed. A Twin Self is an opportunity that allows you both to return to Source. They reflect all lessons created and learned from TFs, and can act as a catalyst to return home quickly, rather than prolong the TF drama of challenges 1 or 2. A Twin Self will assist in clearing the karmic slate, if you will allow yourself to open to the opportunity. If you are in the "creating" stage, the Twin Self is someone you meet before you meet your TF. If you are in the "merging" lifetime, you will meet the Twin Self prior to merging with your TF. If you are in the "realization" lifetime, you meet a Twin Self before the realization comes that you are already merged with your TF. So, Twin Selves are individuals we meet up with in all three TF categories.
In the realization lifetime, you will probably go through many soulmates first, then meet your Twin Self. The Twin Self can be mistaken for a TF (if you do not realize you have already merged with yours). All the karma from the soulmates and TF can be erased through the Twin Self, allowing healing and understanding to take place. Erasing this karma does not take years or lifetimes, just the true giving of unconditional love and forgiveness. (This may not be the case, if you have already worked through the karma with a Twin Self in the lifetime where the merging with your TF took place.) So, each "piece" of the flame within you (although no longer separate) is attracting certain experiences, so that the karma created by both soul pieces (when they were separate), can be worked out through soulmates and the Twin Self. You may feel as if you are living ten lifetimes in one. You are experiencing all the karma of both TF soul pieces put together in one life! Years of work does not have to happen to erase the karma, just the giving of unconditional love to the Twin Self who will be a reflection of all the karmic issues and triggers experienced with soulmates and the TF combined, to be forgiven and loved. When this is accomplished (whether or not the "merged TF" and Twin Self person stay together and have a relationship), you, the merged TF, can continue your journey to other universes, or go home to Source (usually you have been searching for, or guided to a spiritual path that helps you do this). The Twin Self may decide to stay with you, or go their own way, as well. If this occurs, you are free to have a relationship with a soulmate partner for the rest of your life, if you desire.
Note: The Twin Self may not have merged with their own TF or may not be meeting a TF in this lifetime, but can still be the perfect vehicle for the merged TF person to work with/through karma. A psychic can also mistake the Twin Self for your TF, because the channeled information has to go through their filters of understanding, and they may be unaware of the term Twin Self, or even that you have incarnated as both twins in one body.
SOULMATES: Soulmates are individuals that you have created karma with, and are, in some cases, connected to your soul group. These karma replays run on an endless loop. It can be worked out as a whole, with all of them, through a Twin Self. The other path is through forgiveness. The purpose of soulmate relationships is not necessarily to work out karma, but to gather experience, information and learn lessons. You will keep on incarnating with them, because karma keeps you stuck here.
End Note: It is important for TFs, and all of us to take life more lightly. The reason we have so much trouble manifesting what we desire in this life, is because we all take it too seriously. It makes the energy here very thick, and manifesting extremely difficult. Forgiveness work is a big part of the solution, as we acknowledge the hologram that Earth really is. We learn to laugh, forgive and remind ourselves that it is only a dream. (More on divine forgiveness in another article.)
For some of us, our Twin Flame is yet unknown to us, out there in the ethers somewhere, married to someone else, or has walked out on us. We are told to work on our "issues" to bring them back or reconnect, and while that is part of the story, it is not all of it. We all have these issues, which are fear-based and born of past experiences, and even past lives. These issues will be with us for a long time to come. They can take years to work out, even with the desire to overcome them. (When I met my Twin, I was a "walking issue", despite years of self-therapy.) The problem for the separation, is not so much our "issues", because these are fear-based and related to the ego-mind. Healing these is like trying to solve where numbers came from. Its a pointless loop. While we can learn to understand why we do certain things or where the behaviors came from, we still fall back into some semblance of them, because understanding does not make the fears go away. They just take another form (I'm talking about self-sabotage, insecurity, not-good enough, victim mentality etc etc etc). Basically, we are running scripts that are already there, in a matrix hologram. This all has already been done or written. But then, I digress.
What is the secret to permanently ridding ourselves of these issues, without focusing on them? Escaping the "matrix"? Forgiveness, but not in the way one would think. Forgiveness is what allows Love in its undiluted form to guide and lead. Forgiveness will start to erase the old script, and possibly lead your Twin back to a higher version of the script with you...but only if you surrender and allow Spirit to lead. You may have to make this decision over and over again each day...to forgive. Forgiveness that forgives the world as not being real to begin with...forgiving everyone and anyone that crosses your path, and stirs up the issues. These are your forgiveness opportunities. Let's take it higher...forgiveness, because we are ultimately all one Spirit in God, so we made all this up to begin with...to become our own gods, which can't be done. There is only oneness. Separation is the illusion...you know this, because you can communicate with your twin outside of any parameters. So, you are one with your brothers, you brought them all in (pieces of yourself) to act as a mirror, to keep you analyzing, feeling separate, wanting and needing what is in that mirror. The mirror is the hologram. It is not real. We exist as one outside the matrix, but can't see it. We forgive, because it is a hologram, we made it up, we are merely speaking the script, and it doesn't really matter, because: all things pass away in time...outside of time there is only constancy and the lack of separation or duality.
So, how do we forgive?
How do you know the forgiveness is working?
1. You will notice you don't react to certain situations the same way anymore.
2. You may experience that you are thinking something else, while different words are coming out of your mouth, seemingly on their own (the old script).
3. You may see flashing lights, colors or develop symptoms like vertigo out of nowhere, that tell you the hologram is changing...you are switching dimensions of time, as old ones collapse.
4. Time may seem to slow down or speed up, as you see images or people around you on fast forward or slow motion.
5. Circumstances begin to change over time, and work more in your favor, or some areas of life become easier.
6. Your Twin may return or you meet them, you meet a Twin Self (the one before your Twin Flame) or a significant karmic soulmate.
7. You may have already been experiencing some or all of these symptoms, because you have already been forgiving, by your desire to learn Unconditional Love.
Up next...How to know if they are your Twin Flame or a Soulmate, using tarot cards...
Most Twin Flames have the goal of experiencing unconditional love with their partner, but what is this really...and what is their "spiritual purpose" together? What could be your highest spiritual purpose together in the world? It would seem to have to be outside of the ego's agendas (ego equaling fear). The highest purpose is evolving out of the world of duality, and going home to God. And who will choose this if they are in the ego-mind? And for anyone who has ever truly experienced the love between Twins, could deny the existence of a God? So, if the worldly goal is learning unconditional love, then the ultimate spiritual goal is union and going home...and showing others the way, not by actions, but by the love expressed...the joining. So, that brings us to what is this love...the meaning of "unconditional"?
In the past, as I examined the word, I thought it to mean loving another, with no conditions or expectations. But what is "unconditional" in its most extreme definition? It means NO conditions. Meaning, there is no condition that the love is expressed only to someone you already love or have "special" relationships with, such as a spouse, mother, child, brother or friend. It means that you express this Divine Love for all. It means that your love for the beggar, or sinner or saint all equate to the same. Your enemy is your mother. The criminal is your lover. All are your Brothers (Sisters) in eternity, in Spirit. If you can love everyone to the same intensity, you are on the road to oneness with your Twin. (Note that this does not mean you let others take advantage of you, but your love of them is known, albeit silent perhaps, in your heart and higher mind.) You have understanding of why others do what they do, what drives them, because you are one with them. We are all one. There is no other way or truth. Our Twin is our path to learning this, whether they have run from us at the moment, are on the other side or are traversing the journey with us here. The love of the Twin, unconditionally (meaning whether they are in a condition of being your partner or spouse, or not there at all), can lead to the ability to transfer that love to all, which is the ultimate goal in this existence. Any other "spiritual" purpose is in the world is and is just that - worldly; for Love is all that can save, and return us home.
If we believe that our thoughts create reality, then what we see outside of ourselves, is the effect, not the cause. When we focus on the outside world for our happiness and fulfillment of love, we are merely looking at something that is reflecting our mind/thoughts (our Twin is a perfect example of this...the mirror, not the cause). For example, when you think you see signs in the world...is it a sign, or a reflection of what you have been thinking about? Our thoughts, whether they are of the ego, or Higher Mind, create our world. It is not the other way around, although we delude ourselves into thinking that the outside world, an aftereffect or reflection, has the power to make us happy or unhappy. Can a rainy day really make you unhappy, or is it your perception that a rainy day should make you unhappy, or disappoint in some way?
All power, all love, lies within our own Mind, when we join with our Higher Self, and not the ego-mind (looking outside ourselves). Everything outside of us is an idol, or idol worship. When we worship idols, they become like clouds that block the sun, when we are thirsting in a hot desert. They don't put out the sun, but distract us into thinking they do. And inevitably, the idol will disappoint, when the cloud moves, and the sun shines still. When we return to the Mind of our Higher Self, the Twin can be the vehicle for expressing Love, and sending it outwards. First, we must open to and desire this task, in order for the outer world to change...in which case the Twin may return...or we have to accept the seeming separation as is, and work from there. We cannot choose for the Twin. Whether we are with our Twin, or not, our challenge is to learn unconditional love, and accept and bless the world, by extending that love to all. This is the spiritual purpose, and as such, what else is there?
~I've included a section from "A Course in Miracles", which I was guided to, when asking about Twin Flames. The poetic wording can speak on much deeper levels, than anything I could write here:
"In this world, God's Son comes closest to himself in a holy relationship. There he begins to find the certainty his Father has in him. And there he finds his function of restoring his Father's laws to what was held outside them, and finding what was lost. Only in time can anything be lost, and never lost forever. So do the parts of God's Son gradually join in time, and with each joining is the end of time brought nearer. Each miracle of joining is a mighty herald of eternity. No one who has a single purpose, unified and sure, can be afraid. No one who shares his purpose with him can not be one with him.
Each herald of eternity sings of the end of sin and fear. Each speaks in time of what is far beyond it. Two voices raised together call to the hearts of everyone, to let them beat as one. And in that single heartbeat is the unity of love proclaimed and given welcome. Peace to your holy relationship, which has the power to hold the unity of the Son of God together. You give to your brother for everyone, and in your gift is everyone made glad. Forget not Who has given you the gifts you give, and through your not forgetting this, will you remember Who gave the gifts to Him to give to you."
I've sat here many times, waiting for life to kick the butt of the person who did me wrong, hoping that his suffering would make him understand mine, and I could then stop hurting and feel justified. Life really doesn't happen that way. I mean, you may get "lucky" and live long enough to see somebody get their "just dues", but what does that really solve, except to fuel your anger and thirst for vengeance...meaning, you're still suffering?
Karma is different from the Laws of the Universe, such as, if you pollute your drinking water, you won't have clean water to drink. This is just common sense. Karma has more to do with ongoing emotional "punishment and reward" scenarios between people, that continue from lifetime to lifetime. Karma is chosen.
I often get asked by clients what my views are on karma. Here is what I responded to someone today:
"Karma...I have different views probably than most. I don't think life makes us suffer because we did something bad, or rewards us because we did something good. People may tend to do this, but not God or the Universe or Life or whatever you want to call the creative force. I think we reincarnate over and over. We come back in, choosing to suffer because we did something in a previous life that we feel guilty about. So we choose a life to re-live where we suffer a fate similar to our previous victim. We are "atoning" for our "sins" so to speak. I believe this is why we experience deja vu...a feeling like we've been here before...because we have. We live the same lives over and over until we feel we "get it right" or learn the lesson. We also reincarnate with the same people over and over and switch roles. Lets say you had slaves that you starved and abused. You die, and before incarnating again, you may regret what you did and will choose a life where you are in a similar type of situation - maybe you are homeless starving on the streets and get beaten up. Sometimes you will choose a life that you are the victim of the actual person you enslaved. It isn't until we choose to forgive, that we get released from these unnecessary cycles. Forgiving the other people that did you wrong and forgiving yourself. Usually if someone did something to you, chances are you did something to them at another time, or you feel you deserve to suffer for something you did that you most likely don't remember. (A lot of times a Past Life Regression can help you understand and resolve a lot of these repetitive cycles with specific people.) The hardest ones to forgive are the biggest lessons. It may take many tries, or it may take a lifetime to forgive, but we free ourselves when we do this. By understanding and forgiveness, you release yourself from this cycle of suffering."
Forgiveness is freedom.
"Its just business, so don't take it personally." If anyone ever says that to you...run! Anyone who lives by this creed may easily carry over this same attitude in their personal life, employing any means to get their way. People that live by the rule that "All's fair in love and war", may do anything to get ahead, no matter who they have to step on. It reflects a self-centered fear-based mind set. Basically a "taker".
Here's a story for you: I have a male friend who hired a female lawyer to file paperwork for him and his soon to be ex-wife's divorce. The lawyer privately consulted with the wife and convinced her she could get much more than she was agreeing to (which was a lot more than what she was actually entitled to), and so the wife changed the paperwork, demanding more from my friend. Paperwork was set up so that my friend would have to pay half of his income to his ex, until the divorce was finalized. The lawyer did this, because she knew my friend would not be able to afford a lawyer to fight the altered terms. The divorce ended with him getting a bad deal, unable to support himself financially. My story ends with him admitting to me that he is attracted to this woman lawyer, not because she's particularly good-looking, but because she has a good job with potential prosperity. He overlooked the fact that this woman completely screwed him over, and was thinking her character would somehow be different in a personal relationship. Why would it? Your comments?
My boyfriend Andrew's grandmother is on the other side, but she is responsible in a sense for us meeting each other, and has given us confirmation that our relationship was destined. You see, my boyfriend and I are 18 years and eleven months apart in age, which neither of us wanted, much less wanting to break that news to family members.
My story starts with an astrology class that I was teaching in a local metaphysical shop named "Catalpa Tree" up here in Indiana. It was the fall of 2013, and I had just moved here recently from Atlanta. The manager of the shop told me that a gentleman had some questions about astrology charts and was thinking about taking a couple classes. I was a little worried, because psychically I had a sense that there was going to be a man in class who would be difficult, and the Holy Spirit told me to study up on some "way out there" concepts, because he may challenge me in class. It turned out Andrew, was the man with the astrology question, but it was another gentleman who was the difficult person. I didn't really notice Andrew that day, or in the other classes, as I was focused on teaching, and was not looking for or wanting a boyfriend. I didn't even "notice" him when he invited me to lunch to look at his astrology chart. I remember him asking about his marriage, and I tried to be positive, pointing out they were both Libras etc. The next time I saw him in class, he told me he had just asked for a divorce, and had moved out. It was a good month and a half later after a class, that I actually noticed Andrew, (although it was at the back of my mind and ignored) and realized we had a connection. We became involved about three weeks later, but neither of us was taking it seriously. We both felt like the other was our "Twin Flame" see my blog on Twin Flames, so needless to say, it somehow got serious.
It was late at night, a few months later, that an older woman came to me from the other side. Andrew was reading a book, and I told him there was a woman with curly brown hair that had a slight coppery quality wanting to talk with me. I thought her eyes were green. She confirmed she was Andrew's grandmother on his mother's side. She said the name "Earl", which I thought I had heard wrong, because I had a classmate from high school named Earl visit me earlier that week. What was odd was that Earl and I never talked or hung out in high school, but he carved out time to visit me while he was here. A few days after Earl's visit, a client was telling me an involved story about a man named Earl. I remarked that that was two Earls in one week (I know of no other Earls in my life). Now, Andrew's grandmother was saying the name "Earl". Andrew explained that it was her husband's middle name. Funny that she chose that name to confirm herself to me. It is always a crazy synchronicity like that. She gave a lot of information about herself, a lot of which I cannot remember, but she did say that I had helped Andrew onto a better path than the one he was going to take. One thing in particular stands out in my memory from our conversation. She kept saying over and over, "He is my son. I'm proud of my son", and "That's my son" (pointing to him). I asked Andrew what this meant. He said that she had always thought of him as her son. I said, "Yes, but I'm getting the sense from her that she means you were her actual son in another life."
A few days later, I was invited to a family Easter party on Andrew's mother's side of the family. There on the wall was a photo of Andrew and his grandmother. She was definitely the person I saw and spoke with a few nights earlier. When we got home from the party, Andrew suddenly remembered reading some notes of his grandmother's that she had taken while getting a psychic reading. The psychic had told her that Andrew had been her son in a past life. She also told her that after she died, it would be very easy for her to talk with Andrew! "He is my son." Grandma was trying to jog Andrew's memories of her notes to confirm her identity to him. She was also saying in a way, that he and I were meant to be together, as I was the means for him to speak with her after she passed, just as the psychic had predicted.
Note: I was told by the owner of Catalpa Tree Shop that Andrew's grandmother was the very first customer to walk through their doors when it opened 27 years ago. It seems fitting that this is where Andrew and I met.
Do you notice any synchronicities in your life connected to loved ones who have passed on?
We've all heard of soulmates, but now the "new" thing seems to be attracting your Twin Flame (also called Twin Soul or Twin Self). Well, not so new, as I heard about Twin Flames back in the late 80's, and I switched my focus from finding a soulmate to finding a Twin Flame. I didn't have much luck, as the Universe and God didn't agree that I needed to meet mine yet. Over the years, a friend introduced me to Elizabeth Claire Prophet's information on the Violet Flame and calling in your Twin Flame. With somewhat less enthusiasm, but still motivated, I said the invocations, calling to my Twin, wherever he was. I read all the descriptions of what a Twin Flame relationship would be like, and then...nothing happened. Again. It was here I began to doubt, and accredited all the descriptions of this amazing cosmic love as cornball and made up.
I was sailing through soulmates, by this point, well-versed in the ins and outs of dysfunction, co-dependence and red flags. It almost got to the point of, "Hi my name is...oh never mind, we're done." I still had hope, though that a great partner for me existed, even though I was in the throes of a truly painful relationship at the time. I decided to break it off and try something else. I read a book entitled, "Calling in the One: 7 Weeks to finding the Love of your Life", or something like that. It was an amazing book, and I did attract a man into my life....the same man I had just broken up with, and then it ended, again.
After a good 25 or so years of searching, my dreams of wanting a partner had been finally and officially stamped out of me. I no longer desired someone, and was finding great joy with my cats and the thought of being single for the rest of my life. A true Cat Lady in the making! This peaceful time lasted for about 2.5 months, when suddenly in walked my Twin Flame. He was gorgeous, 18 years younger, spiritually evolved, kind-hearted and ready to believe in Twin Flames. As we read the descriptions together, it was as if we were reading about ourselves. (I list some links below that he and I looked at together).
Meeting your Twin is a process of unfoldment. If one is desiring to meet their Twin in this life, and puts out the desire to manifest this, the process then begins. Usually this involves going through any number of soulmate relationships first, until one learns the lessons needed and achieves enough spiritual growth to be in a high enough space to meet the other half of themselves. One twin will usually have to go through several soulmates, and the other maybe only one or two. The relationship is not going to be perfect, as nothing is in the world of duality, but it does, as my Twin put it, "bring you a sense of completion." If feels as though there isn't anything else you're wanting or looking for, as you already have it. This doesn't mean you don't have personal goals, but rather that you feel whole again. You can be whole unto yourself in a sense, but joining together with another is natural and more toward a sense of unity than separation and aloneness. The feeling with a Twin Flame is one of freedom, even to the point of not holding the relationship down to a time line, but enjoying it for as long as you are together.
Have you met your Twin Flame, or do you have soulmates in your life? I'd love to hear about it!